A TikTok video by Christian Bonnier, a 24-year-old marketing agency owner from Tampa, Florida, has ignited debate about why Gen Z is struggling with mental health. His theory? The disappearance of the “third place”—a communal social space outside of home and work.
What Is the “Third Place”?
Bonnier’s argument draws on a concept from sociologist Ray Oldenburg, who described “third places” in his book The Great Good Place (1991). These spaces—cafés, pubs, community centers, and other informal gathering spots—once played a vital role in social well-being. According to Oldenburg, a life limited to home and work creates isolation, while third places foster friendships, connection, and a sense of belonging.
In his viral TikTok, Bonnier argues that Gen Z lacks this third space. “If I’m by myself for too long, anxiety, depression—all kick in. I need to see people, go out with friends, and be social,” he said. His video, which has racked up over 600,000 views, resonated with many who feel increasingly disconnected in the modern world.
Is Remote Work Making Things Worse?
Bonnier points to remote work as a major reason for this shift. With fewer people commuting to offices, the workplace itself has lost much of its function as a social hub. Many Gen Z workers now spend most of their time at home, further reducing opportunities for face-to-face interaction.
This aligns with broader concerns about the loneliness epidemic. Research has linked social isolation to rising rates of anxiety, depression, and even physical health risks. Without casual social interactions—like bumping into a friend at a coffee shop or chatting with coworkers in the breakroom—many feel disconnected.
Is the Problem Social Habits or the Economy?
The TikTok discussion quickly divided users. Some agreed that social habits have changed, while others blamed economic struggles.
- “You can still go to the pub/golf/darts… It’s not the spaces that have changed, it’s the people,” wrote one commenter.
- Others argued that young people simply can’t afford traditional third places anymore. “Problem is people can’t even afford that third place anymore,” said another viewer.
Rising living costs, student debt, and stagnant wages have made it harder for Gen Z to justify spending money on non-essential social outings. Bars, gyms, and even coffee shops now feel like luxury expenses rather than casual hangouts.
Can Third Places Make a Comeback?
Bonnier suggests that people should actively seek out communal activities—whether it’s a gym, a running club, a book club, or a recreational sports league. He also believes society needs to revive the traditional third place, urging a return to local pubs, darts leagues, and social clubs.
But is that enough? While individual efforts help, some argue that the solution needs to be bigger. Cities and businesses could invest in affordable, inclusive gathering spaces—not just bars, but community centers, co-working lounges, and hobby-based meetups.
The debate over the “third place” dilemma touches on a deeper issue: as the world becomes more digital and work more isolated, where do we go to feel connected?
